The magic pill of unconditional love: Param Srikantia - cleveland.com

Guest columnist Param Srikantia is a professor in the Baldwin Wallace University School of Business. He also leads a popular and contagious seminar series about unleashing human potential that has reached more than 100,000 attendees in nine cities to date. If you want to be on a mailing list for his free Sunday webinars, you may email him at psrikant@bw.edu

You can watch his TEDX talk at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fE_82qwpSKI

This piece coincides with my 59th birthday, a great time to take stock of “what have I learned from life?” Not what books, scriptures or parents have taught me, but what my own life has awakened in me.

I offer some of my insights thus far to provoke you to discover and share your own unique “truths.” The fact that we don’t always practice our inner realizations does not diminish the power of their truth.

We think of loving others as something generous we do for their sake. Quite the opposite -- the most selfish thing we can do is to love others compassionately and unconditionally.

We attain a peak state of functioning in unconditional love. We are instantly in sync with our inner power. The internal obstacles to fulfilling our potential and talents magically disappear. The music on our iPod penetrates us deeply, life reveals its deepest secrets, the wind sings to us, our creativity explodes and there is instant oneness with trees and animals.

As human beings, we are all flawed. But we have one divine gift: the ability to truly love other human beings with all their flaws.

If we focus on their failings, we will be lost in the wilderness of disappointment. We have so many imperfections. But we know the peace that comes to us when we feel loved despite our shortcomings. And how blissed out we are when we love fully, no matter what shortcomings we see in the other.

The mind will find flaws, but the heart knows to simply love. The mind represents our mental faculty addicted to analysis. Osho, the Indian mystic who left behind a legacy of thousands of books on love, life and laughter, spoke about “mind-based love” as a different phenomenon from when our heart falls in love.

When the mind falls in love, love is conditional; we love another because we are able to find “good reasons” for loving each other -- reasons that can disappear. When our heart falls in love, it is unconditional and undying, and time and distance are transcended.

In this journey of a lifetime, the first step is to accept and love ourselves fully and unconditionally.

Love and marriage challenge us to love unconditionally. What can be harder than to love another human being after seeing their warts and wounds, up so close as happens in deep, intimate relationships?

As Osho says, it is easy to love God, but a lot harder to love his children! And yet what can be more beautiful than to love someone after seeing their ugly side? Love heals both the lover and the receiver.

Compassion enables us to see beauty in warts, in blemishes, in masks, in wrinkly skin and even in a scheming or selfish nature. Love and compassion become “X-ray glasses” to look deeply beyond the protective armor into each other’s hearts that are always godly.

There are a thousand reasons to withhold love and close our hearts. And yet, our love makes our beloved a better version of themselves; they give us fewer reasons not to love them and we take steps to heal from our own pain.

In this opening of one’s heart, there comes a point when we become a loving and compassionate presence, not just in a few relationships, but as a state of being … a fragrance we release from our very soul.

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